I am curious about men and their choices of spouse or ‘pal’. Why is a man drawn to a certain other person? I am of the old school and still believe that a fella follows his penis toward another person. The sniffing occurs, then the courtship and partnering. Doesn’t it? I am at Starbucks, examining my surroundings and the people who populate those surroundings. What I am doing, as far as I can tell, is profiling. I am making an assumption about someone based on their appearance, that most illusory of protective surfaces. It is a thing we all do whether we like that idea or not. Yes. One glance at another human and we start making judgements. “Is this person a whatzit, a whozit?” “Am I taking a risk with my life of peace and prosperity?” I am drilling into my memory banks, sorting through the note cards now to make comparisons and draw conclusions. There is a couple here at the office who intrigue me. Based on their look alone, I have certain questions and observations, certain imaginations about male ‘romantic’ partnering.
She is wearing make-up that is obvious, so I am guessing it is maybe misapplied? There is too much? It is possible that she is on break from the theatre. She is in a production of Bride of Frankenstein or maybe she is just the weather girl. The garish look is something she must do for balance? I am certain the tv camera and lights would blend her visage well, the bright lights emptying the shadows she has created. (maybe her mom or her make-up assistant did it)The eyebrows and cheekbones are highlighted to an almost clown-like degree. Her cheeks appear sunken and the whole effect is of a very tall, thin face. Perhaps, she is not on tv and is only going for a certain look? That could be. She is succeeding at it. She looks rail-thin and a very tightly wound person. The clothing is plastic sexy, the way an actress like Jennifer Anniston would look. A tall, overemotioned, exotic face helps complete the effect. Maybe she is a Karen-esque difficult person?
The fella looks pretty ordinary. He is ‘just a guy’ having a coffee with his girl. He is not fit but not fat in that sort of middle ground way I find attractive. He is just clunky enough to be able to crush you by accident in bed. By demeanor, he is that guy who is a bit clumsy, a bit common but sincere. His clothes are just jeans and a polo-style knit shirt. He looks okay, kinda sexy to me. Just a usual-ish guy. That he is partnered (I assume by body language) with Ms. Franken-Stein is a curious thing. What drew him to the table? How was the web baited?
The make-up, the make-up…it draws the eye, most definitely. If that was the intent, then kudos…well done. Why is the fella/has the fella been drawn in? What is it he sees there? Interesting. Myself, I would run screaming away in fear of a future with a tightly-wound bitch. Even worse, if that is her idea of ‘decor’, then what would the house look like? A mobile home from the sixties? Why does this fella lean in close for a lil’ sniff?
In truth, I don’t know that heterosexual men are terribly discriminating in the area of ‘possible sex partner’. If a lady will cook and pick up the underwear after submitting, then she is in. I do know that gay men aren’t very discriminating. A hand on a thigh is more than enough to draw one of those in. I don’t know that looks matter as much as it might seem. I am not that certain a male human notices what a potential sex partner really looks like. Could he pick that person out of a line-up? “There, it’s number 3. I would recognize that garish make-up anywhere..watch out for her, she has a completed marriage license application in her purse. mmm”. When it comes to the basics, I think ‘opportunity for a sex experience’ trumps just about anything.
I shouldn’t make such a sweeping statement, though. I am sure that some men are ‘attracted to her/his mind’ but…how many? and why? I know myself. I sniff first. That’s how I got in trouble a couple of times.
Robert On The Air 